Actress Rebecca Gibney reveals her biggest lessons in life
Description Research, now in her third season (Seven, Monday, 8:30 p.m.), Rebecca Gibney sums up the drama series she is co-producing with her husband Richard Bell, as “a roller coaster ride on two mismatched women on the run.”
Finding the right tone “is tricky,” admits the New Zealand actress and mother of her son Zac.
“But when it’s very dark, we quickly try to find lightness. It’s very Australian that in the darkest situations, we find humor and that helps us out on the other side.
It’s a tactic she employed in her personal life – at the end of her first marriage and through battles with anxiety and depression.
Over a glass of rosé and a platter of antipasti, she shared her life lessons with The New Daily.
What’s the biggest lesson you learned about production?
This is the best and the worst. It’s incredibly exciting from a creative standpoint, but it’s also like keeping cats. It’s exhausting, and it’s financially ridiculous, because you don’t really make any money out of it. But I’m really proud of Research.
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about acting?
Don’t act. Every actor is reacting.
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned as a parent?
Breathe in those times when they are small because they are growing so fast. I only had one, and it went from 4 to 14 in the blink of an eye. And I know they say don’t be your kid’s best friend, but I’m his friend because I want him to know he can count on me.
What’s the biggest lesson you learned about balance?
Taking care of yourself is vital. You can’t take care of others if you don’t take care of yourself.
What’s the biggest lesson you learned about beauty?
It’s fleeting (laughs). You will never be as beautiful as in your twenties and thirties. Now beauty for me is a warm smile and kind eyes.
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about marriage?
Compromise. I am very lucky that my husband is my best friend, but we are not co-dependent. We depend on each other, but we’re both strong people who love spending time together.
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about grief?
Inevitable, but it makes you stronger, wiser, and gentler. It is a necessary part of life.
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about body image?
Acceptance. I learned to kiss my muffin top. That doesn’t mean I don’t try to absorb it with Spanx when I’m wearing my cute dress, but it’s there and it’s not going anywhere. And I agree with that.
What’s the biggest lesson you learned about skin care?
I use Vanessa Megan Skin Care, and it’s phenomenal. I’m a no-nonsense girl. I get facials and a bit of Botox every now and then – although right now it’s fading and I’m this age where I’m like, “Really? Can I be disturbed? ‘ I am 53 years old. I love my lines.
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about friendship?
I have a number of very good friendships that I have had over the past 30 years, and they are vital. I am a good friend. I always call people and always make myself available.
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about aging?
It happens to the best of us! We are all getting old. Kiss him. I feel the best I have felt in ages.
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about mental health?
We are all struggling and we all need each other. If everything I share can help someone feel like they’re not alone, then it’s worth it. When I had my depression in my early thirties, I couldn’t express my problem because it was so deep and so buried. But talking about it is the first step.
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned about yourself?
It took me a long time to be really happy with who I am. but I’m fine. I am a good human. I spent a lot of time not being who I was and being scared of this person and now I’m kissing him. I am my own best friend. I have a lot of good friends, but I realized that the most important thing is to become my own best friend.
Research screens on Seven, Mondays, 8:30 p.m.